So people can learn, now! Wow - Llama guest post.

Llama here! So this is a more uplifting post. It proves people can learn manners!

I recently put up some saucy photos on a BDSM website, which is probably what got this guy's attention. My profile specifically says that while other things may be possible, friendship is the first step in any direction. 29 year old guy decides to ignore that and proposition me (27 year old guy) anyway. Gets called on it, and realises he done fucked up.

For clarification, my profile mentions that I'm in a polyamorous relationship (i.e. I have a relationship, but am open to other relationships, and sex)

29YOGUY (not real username): Keen to hook up?

Llama (also not real username: I think if you'd read my profile at all instead of just looking at pictures, you'd probably know the answer to this.

29YOGUY: I did. & I thought well you can only say no.

Sorry to be blunt about it. Ok so I'll leave you alone then.

Llama: Maybe next profile, if you see a rule, don't assume you're the exception to it....

29YOGUY: See a rule? Make friends first?

I know your not monogamous. I would love to play with a couple.

I never assumed I'd be told yes or I would have elaborated more. I was only hoping for a response that didn't say get lost. With what I wrote I knew it wouldn't lead far.

Llama: Correct, make friends first. You are no exception to that rule. There is in fact no exception.

Seriously, it's just respectful.

29YOGUY: Far enough. But how on line? I find it better after meeting. But otherwise to me it feels I'm talking to or reading from a journal.

Once again sorry to be disrespectful. That's one thing I generally think I'm good at. Now reflection time.

Llama: Well, my advice is that at least showing the intention to make friends is a good idea, even if you don't know how to do it online. Ask a question. Comment on something that someone said in their profile. Show an interest in them! Even if you ultimately want to just fuck them/be fucked by them and they're open to that but want to make friends first, explain what about them makes you want that, if you want to.

All the information I got about your intentions were that you wanted to fuck, when I'd made it clear that friendship was the first step anywhere else. That was what was disrespectful.

Good luck with the self-reflection!

Oh this was so short I forgot to post it when it happened...

bloggergirl says:
hey there
bloggergirl says:
thanks for adding
nikkisexy7 says:
hey
bloggergirl says:
how are you?
nikkisexy7 says:
horny lol
bloggergirl says:
ah, well there goes any hope that you're perhaps unlike the majority of people on here
bloggergirl says:
I guess it explains the long wait between replies from you... must be hard to type with one hand

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A Letter From RiverSong

Open letter to men on chat and dating sites:
Dear Men,
I'm not sure how much clearer I can make this but here it goes....
You need to have something to make women want to chat to you.
A pic of your sunglasses=no chat
A pic of you looking like a serial killer=no chat
You are not "cool" when you frown into a close up, you look like a 2 month old doing a poo.
Great tits is not a good opening line
Neither is dtf, wanna rub my c0ck, I live really close to you or Hi.
Tell us something about yourself and not how you like to f$&k
If your picture/profile is unattractive as in: you look/sound drunk, high, damaged, angry,violent, criminally insane or like a wanker, we won't talk to you.
Just because you witheringly say Hi does not then entitle you to unleash a tirade of abuse on a woman if she refuses your advances. Calling someone you were interested in two seconds ago fat,ugly,stuck up, bitch or any other number of insightful insults does two things, makes that woman tell all of her friends that you are a psycho, and makes you look like a psycho.
Nor does chatting to a woman entitle you to sex with them.
No means no, it doesn't mean, sure why not?? Anyone who still thinks no means otherwise is a predator. Predator =no chat.

If you want to lie about your age? Go ahead. Age doesn't matter but saying you are 23 when you are quite obviously 60 means you are a liar or a major addict. Both = no chat.
Women want to talk to you but only if you actually have something to say. Be honest and upfront and accept rejection or acceptance like a man, not like whining 2 year old.
Don't stalk.
Don't show your member unless asked and particularly don't put that as your introductory private picture.
Don't put a pic up of someone else, if you don't like you enough to put a picture up of who you really are, chances are no woman will either.
Get your shit together before putting your profile up
Use spell check for the sake of all that is holy!!
Decline politely, if a girl wants to chat to you and you don't, that's ok, but pointing out all her flaws and then calling her ugly is just downright rude.
Don't just talk to "hot chicks" read a profile once in a while.
Get over yourself, you are not God's gift to women and don't behave as such.
And can I again reiterate, your penis is not a selling tool. Really look at it one day and seriously ask yourself "Is this better than my smile" if it is.... I can't help you.
Oh and finally..... This goes for all the women out there who behave like this!
Happy Dating!!!

 

-RiverSong

Glad I'm not alone in this

I feel like I'm not the only one somehow.
Notice an ever persistent theme? So have these folk.

Llama guest post again

Closet gay guys, they're the salmon that jumps on the hook.... fordfalcon351: hi

Llamalland: ello there

fordfalcon351: how is?

Llamalland: is good

Llamalland: gotta wonder what a straight guy with relatively little in common with me added me for, though

fordfalcon351: im bi but dont advertise

fordfalcon351: how big are you?? cut or uncut?

Llamalland: bi but so far in the closet about it that you don't even say so on a dating website?

fordfalcon351: im scott and you are?

fordfalcon351: nah know too many people

Llamalland: scared of people knowing who you really are?

fordfalcon351: nah got too much to loose

fordfalcon351: plus its no one elses business

Llamalland: but it's everyone else's business that you like girls, right?

Llamalland: What do you have to lose?

fordfalcon351: heaps! ya wanna play or not?

fordfalcon351: yes or no ansa easy

Llamalland: you crack me up :P this kinda thing will never work on me, but you might want to try a little more foreplay for your game when you try it on other people.

fordfalcon351: not interested just want to play

Llamalland: well, you have hands. Have fun playing with them

fordfalcon351: well just cause your a screamin fag dont mean we all have to be!!!

Llamalland: I'm a screaming bi - and no matter open someone is, they have to seduce my brain before my cock joins in.

fordfalcon351: well i can make you hard enuf if we meet

fordfalcon351: thats all that matters

Llamalland: to you

fordfalcon351: what ever

fordfalcon351: you wanna play or not?

Llamalland: you're really still asking?

fordfalcon351: well go fuck yourself then cunt!

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Llama guest post - Can't get out of the closet.

Straight guy adds me. Almost always funny!

Llamalland: hello there

benadelaide1723: hey how are you

Llamalland: good, yourself?

benadelaide1723: bored as

Llamalland: why else are people here?

benadelaide1723: yeah

benadelaide1723: what you into

Llamalland: I think that's a better question for you

benadelaide1723: why is that u tell me

Llamalland: you appear to be straight

benadelaide1723: im bi curious

benadelaide1723: im a top to

Llamalland: but so far in the closet about it that you only say on your profile that you're interested in women?

benadelaide1723: im sorry if your offended

benadelaide1723: dont have to chat then

Llamalland: it just seems strange

Llamalland: I would suggest if you're looking for guys, you be honest about it on your profile

benadelaide1723: ok then

Llamalland: and hey, you're still looking for girls, right? They'll probably be turned on by that

benadelaide1723: nope

Llamalland: so hang on, let me get this straight. You are looking for guys, you aren't looking for women, but according to your profile, you're looking for women and not looking for men?

benadelaide1723: i like both is that problem do you like to hook up with guys yes or no

Llamalland: I think if you'd read my profile, you'd know the answer to that, and you'd know that honesty is important to me

benadelaide1723: would u like to hook up

Llamalland: with an internet random who doesn't admit on his profile that he likes guys, who I have no idea what he looks like, and I've never met?

Llamalland: nah

benadelaide1723: your lose

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The brain is a muscle too?

I add a guy whose profile seems more intent on selling his (admittedly impressive) buff body.
Selected Greeting: I think you are really hot.

Naturally, that bait is too tasty to resist...

Newlysingle2011 says:
Pics?
bloggergirl says:
on my prof
Newlysingle2011 says:
Its locked
bloggergirl says:
unlocked
Newlysingle2011 says:
Skype?
bloggergirl says:
i like to chat on here first - safety first
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